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DEATH, THE GREAT MOTIVATOR

  “Some people die at age 25 & aren’t buried until 75.”  Benjamin Franklin Are you shocked? You shouldn’t be…..for two reasons: 1.) I write about ideas like this; 2.) You ARE going to die. Why don’t we use death more as a motivator? It’s the ultimate energizer. It’s the one thing that is for sure. You can’t rely on any other aspect of life that is a 100% guarantee beside death. Don’t deny it. Use it to your advantage. If you believe in God, you’re good, and you ask for your sins to be forgiven, then you have heaven waiting after you die. But, once again – NO GUARANTEES you’ll get in!! Let’s say you do get the green …

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PRESENTATION CRAFT LAB

WHAT IS IT?   For anyone developing a speech, keynote, a presentation or marketing proposal; pitching to investors or customers, writing a book, song or a new way to save the world. Even fixing a comedy bit! HOW DOES IT WORK?  Folks will take turns presenting to group and then will receive feedback. WILL IT HURT?  Maybe. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. WILL IT BE FUN? YES! DO I HAVE TO PARTICIPATE? No, come see if it’s something you need. CAN I RECORD MYSELF? Yes, good idea! WHEN:     Tuesday, February 10 and Tuesday February 24 TIME:        7:00 P.M. – 9:30 P.M. WHERE:   The B.O.B. 3rd Floor                        LIMITED SEATING!!! COST: $15 in advance         $25 at the door Call or …

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I Dare You to Give This Gift

I love “Funeral Talk.”   You know, those lovely words we share about the person we care enough of to show up at their funeral and say: He was so great. She always had a smile. He was so fun to be around. She would do anything for you. Here’s the ‘DARE’ gift – tell the person that you appreciate what they mean to you while they’re still ALIVE! Not only are you giving them a gift of purpose, meaning, and significance; you’re also incorporating what Viktor Frankl’s calls “logotherapy.” In “Man’s search for Meaning in Life,” Viktor Frankl says, “It’s inherently human to crave knowing we’ve made a difference. By telling those in your life the difference they’ve made, you’ve …

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SIMPLY CARING

Call it a random act of kindness or helping others or making a difference – it’s all CARING. In December 2012 at a Tim Horton’s drive-through, a customer paid the tab for the car behind in line. That act of caring started a chain reaction that lasted three hours; 226 cars paid for the car behind them. Each customer was so moved by being cared for that they, in turn, cared for someone else. A mother who lost her 8 year-old daughter to a rare cancer in 2009, created Milan’s Miracle Fund, a nonprofit that supports research on pediatric cancer. This mother didn’t have to create a foundation. Her daughter is gone. She cares about children she doesn’t know who …

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Office Romance: To Do or Not To Do

Most of you are aware of Don Draper’s (Madmen) sexual antics in the 1960’s work place. What does today’s office romance look like? A ProVault.com study found that 40% of workers have had an office romance. A recent survey of 8000 workers by CareerBuilder.com found that 4 out of 10 employees have dated someone at work. Not fair, but women are seen in a more negative light than men when it comes to workplace romance. Often, women are seen as using an office relationship to get ahead. If you’re thinking of making moves on someone at work, here are some pros and cons to consider: Pro: You spend time together and have common topics to talk about. Con: An office …

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THE MYSTERY OF SYNCHRONICITY

I suppose synchronicity has been around as long as people have, but it wasn’t until the 1950’s when Carl Jung, the famous psychologist, shed light on this curious phenomenon. And of course the 80’s band, The Police, tuned into it’s vibe naming their famous album after the word. A common definition of synchronicity is: The simultaneous occurrence of events that appear significantly related, but have no discernible causal connection. A common example of this could be when we’re thinking about a person and within seconds they call us. More uncommon would be this story a friend recently related to me. While visiting New York City, he was sitting in a coffee shop and calls a friend to arrange a meeting. …

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Two Folders

An observation of living life with two folders: One folder is filled with information we’ve accumulated to navigate our intellectual and skill-based needs. This folder is filled with facts, theories and data that satisfies our need to be knowledgeable. We have multiple degrees, licenses and certifications to authenticate our ability to perform certain tasks and especially to prove to others that we’re smart. We know lots of information, and we have a bulging folder to prove it! The other folder contains our meaning in life – all things that we hold dear and close to our hearts and souls. This folder is absent of any institutional, signed documents. It holds our emotional attachments to those we love and to those …

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Do Great Things…..Today

My high school band teacher, Mr. Bennett was the only teacher that saw beyond my dysfunctional exterior. In my junior year, Mr. Bennett told my mother that I would do ‘great things someday.’ A few ‘great things’ happened during this exchange: First, he spoke out loud an expectation of me; Second, my mother related to me that another person had that positive expectation of me; Third, I believed in the possibility of this expectation becoming true.   GREAT: adjective, of an extent, amount or intensity considerably above the normal or average   I think there’s a gene in all humans that encourages us to go beyond normal or average. We all want to Be Great and do Great Things.   …

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My Five Step Commencement Address for All of Us

I know a “commencement address” can be cliche, but if you could find space in your heart to listen to people older than you, you may discover it benefits your soul and your mind. It’s okay to STOP, and enjoy spontaneous interactions and conversations with people – totally unplanned, unrehearsed and without an agenda. These interactions are some of the most memorable and life enhancing. Don’t waste mental energy on what others think about you. Most likely no one is talking or thinking about you. People are extremely busy worrying about their own lives and drama. Try sometime to just listen to someone without judgment or opinion, with good eye contact, head nods and an occasional ‘wow’ or ‘really’ or …

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The Ripple Effect of Spontaneous Generosity

We’ve all been witness to someone being nice to a complete stranger, such as opening a door, picking up a dropped item, overhearing a complement such as nice hair, lovely outfit….  And for a moment we feel good inside. However, science is showing it’s much more than warm and fuzzy. In a New York Times article on March 16, 2014 Milena Tsvetkova and Michael Macy, from Cornell University concluded “that observing an act of kindness is likely to play an important role in setting a cascade of generosity in motion.” In December of 2012 in Winnipeg at a Tim Horton’s Coffee Shop drive-through, a customer paid for her order and picked up the tab for the stranger in the car …

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